The Effects Of: Harrassment, Stalking, Bullying

The "same person" bullying tactic, as I like to call it, is often used by the stalker/bully/harasser (aggressor) for a number of reasons for a number of purposes.

1. Discrediting the victim.

With the discrediting of the victim, the aggressor hopes to appear more credible. The more credible they appear to be, the more likely their "same person" claims will be believed.

2. To create a look of instability.

The more unstable the victim appears to be, the more likely the aggressor's "same person" claims about their victim, and those that support them, will be believed as true.

3. To make the number of victims appear to be fewer than what it actually is.

This is mainly for gaslighting those that choose to listen to the aggressor into going after their victim and their support system. It's also to make the aggressor look less like a problem. Often times the aggressor KNOWS their victims are not the same person, but if they can manipulate others into believing they are, they can attempt to make it work in their favor.

4. To isolate their victim and/or their friends.

One of the biggest reasons (and purposes) of the "same person" claim is to isolate the victim from any type of support system. They want those supporting the victim to "unfriend" and distance from the victim out of fear the same abuse will happen to them or worse. They want the victim's support system to blame them (the victim) for anything that happens and either also begin attacking them or distance themselves away from them. Another purpose of this is to make their victim more vulnerable. Sometimes in this situation, the victim will isolate from those they know in an attempt to spare them possible harassment. Thus isolating themselves.

5. To create an aura of distrust about the victim.

The aggressor hopes that with their aggressiveness about the victim that their support system, and others, start thinking along the lines of "If they're this aggressive, there must be some merit to what they're saying". They want to create, and encourage, doubt about anything the victim could say.

6. To deflect from the fact that they (the aggressor) are the "same person" as one, or more, of their few supporters.

Much of the times, the aggressor is the "same person" as a supporter or two (or more). To deflect from it, they accuse their victim of what they themselves are guilty of. One sign that the aggressor is a supporter of theirs is the "supporter" is one (or more) of the following.

A) A recently created profile/persona.

B) A suddenly active profile that had been dormant for some time. This indicates that the profile was bought, stolen, or given to them.

C) The majority of their interactions are limited to those associated with the aggressor and those the aggressor is (or has been) obsessing about.

7. They will look for any similarities between the victim and others and claim/use that as proof of them being the same person.

For example I like Saved By The Bell, sports, and Dr Pepper is my favorite soda. The same is true for @CEDAvsFan. So, by a bully's logic we are the same person. I like hockey and pizza. So do thousands of people. I guess that means I am 1,000+ others.

Many aggressors hope that those listening won't do any research beyond what they say and/or ask them to look at. Some actually will look beyond what the aggressor mentions. Those that do will often see that those acccused of being the same person, are in fact different people

Alot of aggressors will slip up when it comes to their pretending the victim and their support system is all the same person by referring to them as individuals in some form or another.

The last I’ll acknowledge or speak of Bullyville’s James McGibney, their close associates, and Brian Joel Kemp. I deserve better than their toxicity, drama, and whatever internet war they got going on.

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https://www.instagram.com/p/DCbC6R2RFZ0/

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgCoXNE34v0

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The video on Tiktok was created solely so I could use its greenscreen feature to help me better make my points, download it, and upload to Instagram and YouTube. It has since been made PRIVATE to discourage continued abuse of the Tiktok report system by mentioned individuals.

When I first heard about the whole matter involving Carissa Shaw via the Bullyville Instagram account, I thought she was guilty of all of what she was accused of. But I was wrong.

To start, the video below (on YouTube, Instagram, and Tiktok) is directly addressing Carissa Shaw; along with an apology and explanation.

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Alot was presented that lead me to believe Carissa Shaw was guilty. I should have looked further from the getgo.

Quite a few things have happened since the start of October 2024 that got me to believe that there was ALOT MORE to all of this. One of them was her ex's (Brian Joel Kemp) behavior towards me that turned into a huge harassment campaign against me, @Angie, @CEDAvsFan, and @Amber Mera (friend of @CEDAvsFan). All of which started because I said what happens with Brian's device because he gives out his passcodes, is on him. Even if only in part. As he continued, I couldn't help but wonder if Carissa Shaw was guilty of anything she was accused of.

Blogs about Brian Joel Kemp's harassment of me.

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Blogs about Brian Joel Kemp's harassment of @CEDAvsFan, @Angie, and @Amber Mera (friend of @CEDAvsFan).

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While I was thinking and wondering if Carissa Shaw was guilty of anything she was accused of, the more I began to think she was very likely not and it was an elaborate set up by her ex, Brian Joel Kemp. One person, whom asked not to be named, approached me with politeness and civility. It only took a few sentences to really get me thinking. One of the main things that REALLY got me thinking was when I was reminded what happened to me, and still does to some extent, because of Joey Camp.

Some of the most important blogs regarding what Joey Camp caused; the bullying, harassment, and more.

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Extremely vicious lies were told about me. The worst being the false claim that I doxxed a 7 year old child! The woman that actually did that was Marcie Wogan. Back when the bulk of this happened, I didn't have "multiple profiles" like it was claimed. Those whom supported me and stood by me were often accused of being me. Some left Twitter, but still talked to me via private means. Some dumped me as a friend altogether. Very few stood by me. I am greatful for those that have.

Profiles were made to mock me horribly and in cruel ways. Some people that Joey Camp ticked off about me, while either pretending to be me or lying about me, even joined in. Links to blogs about me with such horrific claims about me were shared. Photoshopped images, of things I'd never say or do, were shared as if they were fact.

Things got a point that if anyone Googled me, all this horrific stuff would be seen. I would be harshly judged and not given a fair chance.

Of all whom participated in this, only 2 people apologized. Just 2. A few just chose to simply stop torturing me. Very few just chose to be decent towards me. Even TODAY, I get unfairly judged as if I did those horrific things I was accused of.

Thinking about ALL OF THIS again made me think...this is likely how Carissa Shaw feels; or worse.

Me explaining things is simply explaining to help provide understanding in that I understand what Carissa Shaw is going through and being put through. It is in no way excusing my poor choice in choosing to blindly believe what was said and shown about her as if that is all there is. I looked through posts on Instagram by Bullyville and removed all comments I made about her, under the belief she was guilty. It's possible I have missed some. If I had and someone points it out to me in DM on Instagram (gmileycollier78), I will remove them.

I firmly believe that Brian Joel Kemp has gaslighted Dr James McGibney of Bullyville on a GRAND EPIC scale (not good), as well as many others into believing Carissa Shaw did and said things she didn't, and wouldn't, do. I hope that in time he will realize that, but he has to open his mind, listen, and make the realization on his own...like I did. I firmly believe that Brian Joel Kemp is behind everything Carissa Shaw has been accused of. As I stated above, this belief came from his harassment/stalking of me, others, and various veiled threats made by him.

I think alot of people, owe Carissa Shaw an apology.

I would like to close this off by again saying that I am sorry I ever believed the worst about Carissa Shaw and I hope that she will forgive me. If not, I understand and will not hold it against her. As that is her right to feel how she feels. I truly hope she can heal from all she is being put through that was set in motion originally by Brian Joel Kemp.

Brian Joel Kemp took it upon himself to approach me on Twitter right as the World series began.

Previous blogs, packed full with evidence.

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Harassment by Brian Joel Kemp as the World Series started. Same video is on YouTube, Instagram, and Tiktok (friends only).

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That's the gist of it.

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Now, I shall elaborate below a little bit.

I will touch on each tweet individually. Then them all as a whole.

"I've been following along with it all and you're full of sh*t. You stuck your nose into business that wasn't yours and made statement and opinions about things you didn't know. From everything you posted, you all were stalking him."

The first sentence and how this tweet ends makes it obvious that this is Brian pretending to be his own supporter. He speaks like he has to have control of the situation.

"You were blocking and unblocking. Your friend was doing the same. No one wants anything from you because you have nothing. You all tweet, post vids, blog all day, talk sh*t, degrade, and when people call you all out, you play victim..."

In simple terms, Brian Joel Kemp accuses me of what he is guilty of. He also acts like he speaks for everything when he says "No one wants anything from you because you have nothing.". He over-exaggerates as well. 2 common traits among abusive and controlling people are: acting like they speak for everyone and over-exaggeration in order to try to discredit.

"I saw it all @GMileyCollier78. Nothing would have happened beyond your long video if Clyde didn't start sh*t on threads. Your long vid could have been the end. When are you going to wake up and realize that Clyde didn't respect you enough, but had to stalk and continue?"

It is so obvious that Brian Joel Kemp is attempting to gaslight me against my friend Clyde. not happening. Manipulation and gaslighting...FAIL. If he thinks I will fall for it...NOPE! Brian Joel Kemp is very bad at mind games.

I can clearly see what Brian Joel Kemp is trying to do. It's obvious. He can't stand when he can't control a woman to some extent. So he's resorting to resorting to poorly constructed scare tactics so he can gain some control. Also because he can't stand his harassment being pointed out. He also wants the evidence of his harassment and stalking...GONE. Not happening.

As I have said before...Once I speak my peace on a matter, I drop it and move on; only revisiting it if necessary.

He just won't stop... Brian Joel Kemp is at it again...This time it involves his stalking and harassment of me and my friend @CEDAvsFan.

Previous blogs I've written on the entire matter involving Brian Joel Kemp... from oldest to newest.

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Now that we're all caught up...

A video detailing what's currently going on. It's on YouTube and TikTok (friends only setting).

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TikTok: The video here is set to FRIEND ONLY.

I'll get more into everything below.

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(Some of them were recorded and screenshotted with my phone. I also took screenshots on my computer. )

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Disturbing, isn't it? The amount of Tiktoks about me and @CEDAvsFan in 48 hours. Also in that Brian Joel Kemp is saying I should have kept my mouth shut and silenced my friends. Basically he is saying that because I dared to speak up about his harassment of me and @CEDAvsFan, he has a right to keep harassing us. Also my friend @Angie too.

There's a couple of things that were brought to my attention AFTER I posted my video on Tiktok (FRIENDS ONLY SETTING) and YouTube; Brian Joel Kemp's TikTok story on his "Ronin_Swordz" Tiktok account and a obvious veiled threat on his threads account.

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Essentially the message that Brian Joel Kemp is trying to convey here is that he will continue to mess with me and my friend @CEDAvsFan unless we delete all evidence of his stalking and harassment. Simply put, he wants all evidence of his bad behavior to go away. If he was as innocent of a victim as he claims, he wouldn't be acting like this.

Another thing I noticed. Brian Joel Kemp is falsely claiming that @Angie, @CEDAvsFan, and @CreatorLuther69 are the same person in his Threads post. Not long ago, @CEDAvsFan, told me that in one of his videos he claims me, him, and @CreatorLuther69 was the same person. His claims are just wild... and borderline "nuts". Especially him claiming @CEDAvsFan and I are the same person.

Now... I never watched any of Brian Joel Kemp's Tiktoks about me, as I stated in the video above. I only clicked on one; never watched it; just looked at the description. That's it. But I can take a guess, based on Brian Joel Kemp's history in harassing me, @CEDAvsFan, and @Angie.

I can pretty much guess some, most, or all of what is in Bryan Joel Kemp's Tiktok's (about me, @Angie, and @CEDAvsFan) on his "ronin_swordz" and his "bcomplexmh" Tiktok accounts.

1) Claims of me harassing him. I've more than prove that Brian Joel Kemp has harassed and stalked me. On top of him making veiled threats and trying to intimidate me.

2) Claims of me using "white woman tears" to heavily imply I'm racist. I am most definitely not racist. Those who know me, know I'm not.

3) Claiming I came after him. I've posted more than enough evidence in this blog, and prior blogs, to more than prove my claims of Brian Joel Kemp harassing and stalking me.

4) Trying hard to play the victim. He's definitely not the victim here. I've more than proven that.

5) Attempts to twist the matter in such a way as to portray things how he wants onlookers to see it. A typical manipulation tactic mostly used by abusers.

6) Making veiled threats. He's done it before and considering he made over a dozen videos about me and @CEDAvsFan, I wouldn't doubt it. When he makes veiled threats, he tends to try to only look obvious to me and @CEDAvsFan... but not to others.

7) Claims of "moving on". If he hasn't already, soon he will post a video claiming he's moved on. LIKELY so if I speak up about what's he's pulled regarding me since my last blog and video, I might look bad; or fear it.

8) Trying to portray me as racist in some way without saying it in hopes someone will flat out say it. This way he can get away with saying he never said I was racist. IF he goes this route, it's likely to discredit me so fewer will listen to me.

9) Might admit to 1 or some things, but not others for the sole purpose using the small admission to get away with what else he is guilty of. Basically what this means if he is called out on other things he is guilty of, those whom have chosen to believe him are likely to come to his defense saying, "If he was guilty of it, he would've admitted to it with the other stuff." or similar.

10) A claim of having "connections". This would be an attempt to scare me into removing everything I posted regarding speaking up about his harassment and stalking. Not happening. I'm not removing anything. When he attacks me online, I have a right to speak up.

11) An attempt to justify his behavior. People like him always try to justify their harassment.

Again I'm guessing, based on past behaviors in regards to him harassing/stalking me.

Another thing that I want to address is some missing Tiktok videos that @CEDAvsFan and myself had on our Tiktoks. @CEDAvsFan is missing now 21 videos that he knows he didn't deleted. Unsure of which specific ones since he has alot of videos posted. I just know his count is down by 21.

I am missing 4 Tiktok videos. I know exactly which ones.

1) One of my 2 Superbowl 2024 videos. It's the one in which I am talking about enjoying it.

2) The one where I talk about how black history isn't just in February because it happens everyday. I was talking about how we should celebrate black history everyday.

3) One of the ones in which I spoke up about Brian Joel Kemp's harassment. I filed an appeal. I made a mistake and deleted it. Funny part. I won the appeal. But because I deleted it instead of another video. It obviously is gone, but atleast I won my appeal.

4) A tribute to Chadwick Bodeman. I made a video as a tribute to him. He went through chemo. No one knew. He gave us his all. his best. He did so because he loved ad appreciated his fans that much. His coworkers too.

These videos... there wasn't anything wrong with them. No curse words. No hate speech. No encouragement to harass. No personal information given. Nothing that would break the rules or even come close. Yet they disappeared. I only got a notification for 1 of them. @CEDAvsFan is missing 21 videos. No notifications. Also my Tiktok account is in good standing. No warnings. No strikes.

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Odd isn't it? GOOD STANDING despite 4 videos removed and only 1 notification. Clyde is missing 21 videos and got no notifications. His account is in good standing. Now isn't this odd? There is only one logical explanation. That being someone used bots to help mass report. If a video on Tiktok is mass reported, the system automatically removes it and slaps a "harassment & bullying" label on it even if there's nothing wrong with it. Sometimes if there is so many reports, no notification. If those videos were removed because of any violation, I'd have a warning or strike. But my account is in good standing. So yeah bots are being used to mass report me and @CEDAvsFan.

Brian Joel Kemp is most definitely behind it; whether it be him or someone he gaslighted into doing it for him. He's shown anger and resentment that me and @CEDAvsFan have spoken up about his harassment and stalking. He's said that I should have kept my mouth shut and should have silenced my friends. He's heavily implied he won't stop messing with me until I remove all evidence of his bad behavior towards and about me.

When Brian Joel Kemp speaks up about me, it isn't to "tell the truth"...but a very twisted version of it that is false in which he is trying to pass off as the truth. In posts he's made about me thus far, I've noticed he tries way too hard to play the victim. He spends so much time putting all the blame on me. He only admits to the least amount possible when it suits him and can use it for some pity party. He acts like I have no right to say anything about him because I don't know him. What I know of him is his bad behavior; his stalking and harassment of me. So according to his logic, I'm not allowed to say anything because I don't know him personally. Always excuses and deflection with him. Always playing the victim and nothing is ever his fault. He's a classic narcissist.

Brian Joel Kemp has also harassed my 2 friends; @Angie and @CEDAvsFan. They've both written blogs detailing their experiences and insights.

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Another blog from @CEDAvsFan is coming soon because alot has happened since his last one. Brian Joel Kemp has begun to target him more.

One reason I think that Brian Joel Kemp is targeting @CEDAvsFan more is that he hopes to gaslight and manipulate him into blaming me so he will distance himself from me. Also because he doesn't like when his victims are right and he is wrong and hates it when they stand up to him. In some way he is trying to isolate me from friends so I will be more vulnerable.

In my past blogs, which are all linked above, I have detailed how his behavior fits the profile of someone who is controlling and/or abusive. He's tried to use veiled threats and intimidation to get me to remove evidence I've posted about his behavior. If he was innocent and/or a victim... then he wouldn't act like this.

Those who truly know me know that once I speak my piece on a matter, I drop it and move on AND only revisit it if absolutely necessary. Brian Joel Kemp needs to move on and leave me alone.

If Brian Joel Kemp thinks that I will remove anything I've posted about his harassment and stalking against me, he's wrong. I am not removing anything. IT STAYS.

This blog is a follow up to my 2 prior blogs on this same matter.

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So much evidence in the 2 previous blogs.

Video about the matter; on YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram.

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I got into detail about Brian's harassment, threats, and now stalking.

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I also have screenshots of  my notifications shown in the above video.

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So many claims and things said... All of which I will address.

CLAIM#1: "No one is harassing you." BULLsh*t!

I've more than proven that Brian Joel Kemp has harassed and threaten me with my past 2 blogs in the subject. Each of which has undeniable proof.

CLAIM#2: "Clyde should have never crossed paths with my threads" AND "Clyde came to my threads. That is how I found your stuff." AND "Clyde, this is on you. You commented on my thread, before that, I didn't even know or case about her video." AND "I bet she won't tell that part in her blog. You're the bully, clyde. I left you all alone but you had to come lurking on my threads bud."

It looks like Brian Joel Kemp is trying to put a wedge between me and my friend Clyde. He wants me to blame him for his (Brian Joel Kemp's) attacks on me. He wants to isolate me from him. That is a well known tactic of abusers and bullies.

CLAIM#3: "you're playing the victim. You run your mouth for 30 minutes and didn't think I would find out?"

I'm not the one "playing" victim. That would be Brian Joel Kemp. He did so with those 2 Instagram stories in which he showed only bits and pieces and worded things in such a way so as to imply something completely different. The most disturbing part of this is the last 6 words, "and didn't think I would find out.". That is a phrase commonly used by an angry bully/abuser when their victim does something they don't want them to. It's also an intimidation tactic to guilt the person into keeping quiet.

CLAIM#4: "I just plan to dissect you 30 min repetitive rant and offer why I said what I said in the comments."

Brian likes to show bits and pieces and word things how he wants people to see it, even if it is a little (OR FAR) from the truth. That is likely what he will do there. He continues to play the victim. And very badly too.

CLAIM#5: "Calling me a sociopath and clout chaser? Based on what? I have fewer followers than you"

A commenter said those things and those things ARE accurate. The way Brian Joel Kemp has acted in regards to me and Clyde, only makes "sociopath" look more true. Just because he has few followers doesn't mean he isn't a clout chaser. The way he is trying to play victim...kinda makes him one.

CLAIM#6: "Me is a revelation of who y'all are. I spent the last week and a half for 12 hours a day, delivering food and balloons, for $150 to 200"

Distraction and deflection is STRONG with this one...

CLAIM#7: "I am honored I live rent free in all of your heads. You all talk s*** the run away and block me. Cute."

What's true about Brian Joel Kemp, he claims is true about me and Clyde. He doesn't live rent free in my head or Clyde's. We live rent free in his. I don't even talk about or speak about this matter unless I absolutely need to. I did the first blog and video only after Brian came after me. Then I dropped the matter once I spoke my piecee. I wasn't going to bring it up or talk about it again unless necessary. It became necessary when he targted me and gave me a veiled threat, which is still a threat.

CLAIM#8: "Lawyer. And I do know a few. So... turnabout is fair play, and karma is a b**** and I am her b*st**d son."

Big time veiled threat and intimidation. Brian Joel Kemp is hoping I will get so scared I will delete all my standing up to him and speaking up about his bs against me. Nope. Not happening. Not falling for it. If I did, I'd be enabling him to do it to others.

CLAIM#9: "No You started it. And you know it."

No I didn't start anything.He came at me. I more than proved it in my prior blogs and prior videos regarding this subject matter.

CLAIM#10: "No no no... you are not giving the whole story. Clyde came to my threads. That is how I found your stuff."

Untrue. He attacked me on Threads. Clyde stood up for me. So Brian Joel Kemp is twisting the truth and trying to act like he's a victim. Again, what's true about him, he claims is true about me.

CLAIM#11: "And this account here, this private one I have is an open apology about things I have done. Which I will circle back to in my retort."

A few things wrong here. For one, he knows I have his main Tiktok account, "bcomplexmh", blocked. So he uses a back up against to SPAM nasty comments, harass me, threaten me, intimidate me, and to try and silence me. It's very against the TOS of Tiktok to circumvent being blocked. It's considered harassment. And he tries to mildly intimidate me and scare me with the last sentence hoping I will get so scared I delete everything and all the evidence I've shared proving he came after me, threatened me, harassed me, and intimidated me. I'm not deleting anything. I won't let him intimdate me into silence. If he comes at me, harasses me, threatens me... I have every right to defend myself and speak my piece. If Brian Joel Kemp doesn't want me speaking up, I have a real cool idea for him. It's called "If you don't harass and stalk me, I won't have anything to say about your behavior."

Brian Joel Kemp has become obsessed with bothering me in an unhealthy way. I've said many times that he needs to leave me alone. If he doesn't want me mentioning him, he should try not harassing and bothering and stalking me. What would I have to say if he left me alone. nothing. He needs to grow up.

Brian Joel Kemp has now taken it upon himself to harass me on the Threads app. But before I get into that, check out my past blog regarding Brian Joel Kemp to get caught up.

Here's a video I made about harassment and threats from Brian Joel Kemp.

(same video is on YouTube, Instagram)

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There's 2 particular comments by Brian Joel Kemp that I want to go into detail about.

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Brian Joel Kemp is being awfully vague when saying "You don't know what I did to keep her happy.". That speaks VOLUMES! Also he's making a veiled threat to intimidate me into making everything I've said about my encounter with him...disappear. Not a chance. Not happening.

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What Brian Joel Kemp is saying is I have no right to speak up about his bad behavior towards and about me. AND... that he has every right to come after me for speaking up. He also refers to me as a "psycho" for speaking up. When he says "...about issues you know nothing.", I guess he is speaking about how some of his behavior is warning signs of an abusive type. Well I do know something because there's this thing called the internet, google, and looking up signs of an abuser. Oh and I've lived through abuse.

This is a very typical pattern of the one who's guilty of being the aggressor. Play the victim as they justify their behavior. Call the victim a psycho while trying to falsely portray them as the aggressor.

To think, all this started with Brian Joel Kemp coming after me for stating obvious facts.

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After this I rightfully called out the weak excuse. He's the one that chose to give out his passcodes. So he is liable for whatever happens because of it. The way that thread of comments continued, he kept coming at me and others who responded to me. The way he responded to me and the other women was very different than how he responded to the one man.

Originally here, I thought it was a dumb move for him to be the type to give out his passcodes.  But via 2 Instagram stories, he revealed himself to believe that if someone you are with asks to search your stuff, you have to let them.

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In the first Instagram story of Brian Joel Kemp's that I show, he shows one of the top warning signs of an abuser. That which I went into detail in my prior blog, which is linked up at the beginning of this one.

In the 2nd Instagram story he shows only part of the comment thread and spins it how he wants onlookers to see it.

I honestly  thought I had blocked Brian Joel Kemp already, but this time I made sure I blocked him on Instagram and Threads.

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If Brian Joel Kemp tries to bother me elsewhere, he will be blocked there too.

Those who know me, know that after I speak my peace on a matter, I move on and don't speak about it again unless absolutely necessary.

Lastly about Brian Joel Kemp...

1) He needs to quit acting like I came at him first when evidence shows he came at me first.

2) He exhibits warning signs of an abuser.

3) He's currently trying to intimidate me into making my speaking up about him...disappear.

4) And finally he... (see below)

What Brian Joel Kemp needs to do is grow up and move on.

Some hours ago I checked the Instagram account for Bullyville to see if there was anything new posted by Dr James McGibney about Carissa Shaw...

The video below gives the gist of it. Same video on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram.

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Something is DEFINITELY...VERY OFF about Brian Joel Kemp.

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The way Brian Joel Kemp behaved throughout this whole thing is very alarming. To some people, they may see him as simply overreacting. But to those who are aware of "particular signs and behaviors", it's alarming. I'll go on to explain how below.

What's disturbing about this whole matter is how Brian Joel Kemp had chosen to handle it. He's showing signs of being a controlling and/or abusive individual. He harps on the issue of how someone you're with should be given your passcodes if they ask. The troublesome part about that is asking for passcodes/passwords to the device of someone you are with is a controlling behavior. Not to mention a major invasion of privacy. Brian Joel Camp makes it his mission to say that you have to let your partner look through your stuff when they ask. Stuff meaning anything they ask to look through. Througout much of the comment thread, Brian Joel Kemp merely heavily implies this. But his recent Instagram story he tagged me in...makes it extremely obvious and undeniable.

Brian Joel Kemp's recent Instagram story on his "ronin_swordz" Instagram.

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Brian Joel Kemp really should have added what he did to his Instagram story because it is "definitive without a doubt" evidence that he is a "controlling" and "potentially abusive person". I'll get into that below.

A few things about Brian Joel Kemp raise some alarm bells in my mind. The fact that he says when someone you're with asks to look through your stuff, it's a big no no to deny them. The way he reacted to me, my friend @Angie, and @CEDAvsFan's friend @Amber Mera vs @CEDAvsFan himself... is very telling. He's showing strong indications that he doesn't like strong women. While he never said I was racist, he's tried to portray me as such so someone else could say it and he could just go along with it. He's gotten on my case about my face not being in my profile picture in a way that it's some high crime to have social media unless I show my face. Well, he obviously didn't look at my profile because my face is in alot of posts. The way he asks when the last time I was in a relationship, coupled with his gripes, he heavily implies I'm not worth while unless I'm in a relationship and willing to let someone search my stuff upon demand. Yeah...something is very off about Brian Joel Kemp!

Instead of just talking about it, I've decided to do some research on signs of a controlling and/or abusive partner. I see a few aspects that relate to Brian Joel Kemp. Each of which will be cited below.

(Some aspects might be cited a time or two in different wording so as to provide perspective.)

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All of these signs, he showed/displayed in some form or another, within the comment thread shown way above and the video way above.

Just SOME of the things that occurred in the comment thread (shown way above) in which Brian Joel Kemp shows he exhibits signs of being a controlling/abusive type person.

1- Accepts Responsibility only when it suits him more than hurts him.

2- Gaslighting.

3- The way he reacts towards me, Casey, and AmberMera vs Clyde.

4- His Instagram story that says when a partner asks to search your stuff, it's wrong to deny them.

5- The way he said "When was the last time you were in a relationship?".

6- The attempt to "manipulate the masses" (those viewing) into thinking I'm racist so someone else can say it and he can deny saying it. All so it gives him more to attack me for.

7- Can't handle strong women.

8- Shows only "bits and pieces" of the comment thread in his Instagram story. Spins it how he wants/expects others to see it.

9- Does alot of blaming of others.

Brian Joel Kemp is Carissa Shaw's ex-boyfriend. He is a controlling/abusive type. 

Alot about his behavior EARLY yesterday not only shows signs of a controlling/abusive person, but also shows he IS hiding something.  As to what...WHO KNOWS?

Check out Dr James McGibney of Bullyville on Instagram for his take on the Brian Kemp and Carissa Shaw matter

Bullyville (Dr James McGibney) on Instagram

I caught wind of this "bstylin62" shopper when she tagged me in a tweet, as she responded to @CEDAvsFan's reply to her tweet on Twitter(x) in which she bragged about screwing customers over. She responded to her initial response to @CEDAvsFan. Then she deleted her initial response (the one in which she tagged me in) to @CEDAvsFan. She then continued to try to make her case while still falsely claiming tip baiting.

SCREENSHOT BELOW. Thank you @CEDAvsFan for getting the screenshot.

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What "bstylin62" is talking about here...IS NOT TIP BAITING! Customers can add or remove items from their order up until a shopper has indicated they're finished shopping. ALL Instacart customers (and shoppers) know this. All Instacart workers know this.

What "bstylin62" is doing is trying to justify OPENLY BRAGGING about screwing customers over out of spite...just for the heck of it. What she is also doing is bragging about how she falsely reported the customer for tip baiting.

TIP BAITING is giving a large tip then vastly decreasing it . That's NOT what happened here. All the customer did was remove  items from the order. Once an order is placed on Instacart, a customer can't adjust the tip until AFTER the order has been delivered. So, the customer in this situation could not have tip baited her.

"bstylin62" also shows a selfish and partially vindictive side. She does such by acting like she could care less if others are affected as long as it isn't her.

"bstylin62" is wrong when she says  "Doesn't sound like ur friends situation to me.. lol". It is because "bstylin62" is showing how much like "Brittany of Jacksonville FL" she is in that she is screwing over customers.

The very definition of tip baiting below.

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A notification on Twitter(X) showing me as tagged in to the conversion I never participated in. (explanation above at start of blog).

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ALL 3 tweets/posts by "bstylin62" that I show below have been archived in case of deletion to cover her butt.

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But then again, Instacart does like to protect its shoppers that do screw over customers.

Hopefully a few decent people see what "bstylin62" is doing and report her en masse. If so, hopefully Instacart can match her face and info (which she posted publicly on a public site; TwitterX) to her shopper account.

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If Instacart is going to chastise and penalize customers for sharing what's in their Instacart account, then why should shoppers be exempt from the same treatment? All of the below is publicly posted in a public place by "bstylin62".

(All of the below in the quote box can be used by Instacart to identify this shopper.)

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UNBELIEVEABLE! She is sharing approximate location info and shaming customers for their orders. She is even shaming a customer for a near 50% tip.

The purpose of showing this publicly posted, publicly available, post is "bstylin62" identifies herself more with this by showing her name.

(This being shared is for purposes of identification by Instacart in case they grow a conscience and decide to take action against this shopper. I am not encouraging or endorsing contacting this volatile Instacart shopper.)

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If Instacart followed, and lived by, it's own policies... Then by their own TOS this shopper, Bethany Stiles (aka "bstylin62"), should receive disciplinary action on her shopper account for 5 things at the very least.

1) Openly bragging about screwing customers over.

2) Screwing customers over.

3) Falsely reporting a customer for tip baiting.

4) Posting approximate location information in relation to customers.

5) Shaming customers.

If Instacart wants to do right, they'll start by getting rid of the bad shoppers that screw over customers, treat the good shoppers right, and start being respectful to customers.

FOLLOW UP TO: (PLEASE READ and WATCH everything in the blog below to be caught up)

Now you're all caught up, proceed to continue to read everything below.

I've done a video about the matter.

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But regardless if you watch it or not, I will touch base on what I've said (and more) below.

The latest email from Instacart's "Trust&Safety" team.

(Received at: 6:29pm ET on Friday September 20, 2024.)

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LOLx1000! When I saw this, I couldn't stop laughing because just 2 days prior (on 9/18/2024) I had put in for ACCOUNT DELETION. I did so about 2 hours after I received the email from Instacart's "Trust & Safety" (9/18/2024 at 2:17am ET) telling me to remove everything I post regarding the matter in which their shopper "Brittany of Jacksonville, FL" stole my entire $200 order. So they're "deactivating" the account in which I put in for deletion? LOL. Okay, go ahead Instacart I won't miss you.

The emails I got regarding requesting account deletion.

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When a person requests account deletion of their Instacart account, the above here is what they get. It looks like I've only put in for a private information request, but this is what I got when I put in for deletion around close to 4am on Wednesday September 18, 2024; barely 2 hours after I received that email from Instacart's "Trust&Safety" team. Oh and it can clearly be seen what I changed my name to in my Instacart account before I requested deletion. I felt it perfectly reflected Instacart's true values that they've shown.

As a refresher, here's the email I received at 2:17am ET on 9/18/2024 from Instacart's "Trust&Safety" team trying to intimidate me into keeping quiet about their shopper "Brittany of Jacksonville FL" stealing my $200 order.

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No. I'm definitely NOT removing anything and I won't keep quiet. If I do, then it makes me as bad as them because I'd be enabling and endorsing their poor treatment of others.

REMINDER: The Instacart shopper that started all this by stealing my entire $200 order on 9/13/2024.

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This (above) is the woman Instacart is trying to protect by trying (and failing miserably) to silence, censor, and punish me.

Now that I've given some core basics, it's time to touch base on the contents of that email I was sent LATE yesterday on Friday 9/20/2024.

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"We’re deactivating your Instacart account due to sharing private information related to a shopper on 9/19."

LOL! Like I care. I requested deletion. So how is this punishing me like they think? It's not. Especially since it is obvious I never intend to use their services again.

 

"You agree that you are responsible for all conduct and transactions that take place on or using your account and that you will take precautions to keep your password and other account information secure."

Okay so it's wrong to share anything within my Instacart account. Got it. So if I want to share my own info, I guess that's violating Instacart policy. That's what this implies. I guess this means anyone and everyone that's shared information from their account is in violation. Their logic is flawed.

 

"You agree that you will comply with all applicable laws when accessing or using Instacart’s Services, you will adhere to the Instacart Community Guidelines for Customers, and you will respect those who you encounter in your use of the Services, including personal shoppers, Instacart personnel, and individuals who support Instacart’s Help Center."

So I guess that by speaking up and speaking out about "Brittany of Jacksonville FL" stealing my $200 order it is "disrespectful". Ummm, no it's not. I have a right to speak up about  what happened. I am not posting private information. A pic and first name is not posting/sharing private information. If it was then Instacart themselves is in violation of this policy just by attaching every shopper's pic and first name to each order. Oh wait! So would everyone on the internet that's ever shared a pic with a name.

 

"Instacart reserves the right to decline orders, refuse partial or full delivery, terminate or restrict access to accounts or Services, and/or cancel orders at any time in its sole discretion."

By Instacart throwing this in my face, considering what has happened, this is VERY HEAVILY IMPLYING that it's okay and they condone "Brittany of Jacksonville FL" stealing my entire $200 order. This is also saying that Instacart has a right to just take a customer's money without delivering their order for whatever reason AND get away with it.

 

"Please also see the Instacart Community Guidelines for Customers, which prohibit unsafe, disrespectful, and dishonest behavior. Instacart may take appropriate action, including termination of customer accounts, for any violation of the Guidelines."

Tried to take a look, but I get a "Sorry, this page doesn't exist". Hmmm. But  to comment on the rest... According to Instacart I am unsafe, disrespectful, and dishonest. Well, I guess anyone speaking up about their atrocities is considered those 3 things.

 

"If you believe this was done in error, please contact us by replying directly to this email."

Oh. I plan to respond and that response will be below a bit.

Instacart logic is very flawed in so many ways.

And now here is the email I just sent in response to the latest from Instacart's "Trust&Safety" team.

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Just telling it like it is.

Instacart obviously doesn't like that I've spoken up about my experience with them and their shopper "Brittany of Jacksonville FL" for stealing my $200 order. If they would have done something and not tried to short change me, victim blame, victim shame me... then I wouldn't have had a reason to speak up except to say a shopper stole from me and praise to Instacart for taking care of it. But, of course, things didn't happen that way.

To start off, here's the gist of it.

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Basically showing that I CANCELLED my Instacart subscription. I showed that I removed my payment method, removed my real address, changed my phone number to a number from a random phone app, and changed my name to something that fits Instacart's true values.

PROOF that Instacart shorted me on the refund when they finally decided to offer more than $8.50.

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While Instacart shorted me by $11.49 and most wouldn't consider that a big deal, I do. Imagine how much they'd make if they did this to most of their customers or just some. Every little bit adds up.

A friend of mine has also spoken up about this issue with his own thoughts.

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I was going to let my video be all I say about what happened, but because of an email I received at 2:17am today (9/18/2024), I have decided to write this blog.

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First off, I never shared "confidential" information from MY Instacart account publicly. Even if I did, it would be mine and it would be on me and it would be my stupidity. Screenshots I showed of MY Instacart account has anything identifiable to me blotched out. All I've said about this matter, up to this point, is in the videos I linked above that were in existence as of me typing this. Although I did just do a video response to a comment they left for my friend, whom also spoke up with his thoughts on the matter regarding "Brittany" stealing my entire order.

The screenshots of things he's shown that I sent him, he has my permission to use. Even if Instacart's email address shows, well...their communication emails that they use to communicate are... PUBLIC INFORMATION.

Also, if you look at this email closely, you can see that Instacart is being a little over-dramatic. They're trying to say that by me speaking up about what their shopper "Brittany" of Jacksonville, Florida that I am endangering everyone at Instacart.

They're also telling me to remove my videos in which I speak up about all this.

They're also saying they can't disclose details surrounding their investigation. But they kind of already did in their last email to me when they said "We have removed the shopper in question from your account, so you won't be paired with them in the future.". The whole 'in the future' part is very telling of the fact they plan to keep her in their employ.

The previous email I received from Instacart that I spoke of above.

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Hmmm. I never requested anything of them that would warrant the whole "legal process speech". However I did request that they actually take action against their shopper Brittany of Jacksonville Florida that stole my entire order. They also act like I never sent them anything (evidence) regarding this matter when I have. I had evidence in a video on a you tube channel I never used. Suddenly that channel is terminated with no explanation. Coincidentally after I received this email. That says alot about Instacart. None of it good.

While I was working on this blog, I did a video reply to a comment by Instcart on my friend @CEDAvsFan's Tiktok about this whole matter.

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I don't call their latest email "reaching out". It is more like guilt tripping me to being silent and deleting anything and everything I said and trying to get @CEDAvsFan to be and keep quiet.

After this blog is posted, I will share it across social media in posts; 1 post per social media app. I'll be making a video, to be posted on Tiktok and YouTube, about this. After that, it will be all I say about this matter unless absolutely necessary. If Instacart attempts any further communications with me beyond what they just sent me, I won't hesitate to show it.

After this blog is posted, I will respond to Instacart's latest email and state that what I posted will not be removed, that I did not appreciate their attempts to intimidate, that it's obvious they plan to do nothing about their thieving shopper Brittany of Jacksonville Florida, AND that I want no further communications from them (Instacart).

I have taken steps to sever my connection to Instacart. I've changed the number in my account to a number from a random phone app. I've removed my credit card. I've removed my address. I changed my name to reflect Instacart's true values (they have none). After a day of trying to delete my account, I was finally able to go through the deletion process. I just hope it sticks.

Instacart should be ashamed of themselves for working so hard to protect their thieving shopper Brittany of Jacksonville, Florida and trying to silence/censor me for speaking up about what she did.

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EDIT/UPDATE

(12:13pm ET on 9/19/2024) My latest video regarding this matter as I speak about Instacart's attempt to silence me, their attempt to censor me, and as I speak a little about this blog.

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  NOTICE: Right as I was working on this blog, I took noticed of a "Account not found" error regarding the profile of "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok". The only profile that came up for her was a backup, "spiritualsquirrel of TikTok". But "SpiritualTatas of TikTok (formerly SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok)"  showed up in a search when I was logged out. Simply put, she changed her username. Good thing someone remains blocked even if they change their username.

On Saturday Match 23, 2024, I approached "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" about a Tiktok she made about me. It was because her video was very hurtful. It made me look like I was very stupid and extremely ignorant and she was my only hope of understanding anything. She jumped down my throat from the start and seemed to ease up a little bit. Not by much. While I didn't converse with her much, or for long, I felt like she was talking to me like I was inferior, stupid, and beneath her.

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My Comments: I approached "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" after I noticed a very hurtful video she posted about me that portrayed me as extremely stupid and ignorant. She made me look like I am not a "trans ally" and that I'm some transphobe. A mere statement of how things look; not how they are. She did it worse than "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok". I would have mentioned how she made me look, but considering her initial response, I thought it would be a bad idea. I thought I would see how the conversation goes before passing judgement.

The way "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" replied to me by saying "you don't need to tell me what they're like" had implied to me that what she says matters and what I say doesn't. It also implies she could care less how someone else is affected. I continued to try and explain myself that I wasn't "othering" anyone.

I also politely called her out on how her video was causing me to be slandered.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" attempts to justify her hurtful video while trying to get me to think I said something oh so horribly wrong. She then twists my words and acts as if I said she was slandering me. I never said that. I said I was being slandered because of her video. Then she falsely accuses me of tone policing her! What she said after that, "who the hell are you to do that" is implying to me I have no right to speak up about how she made me look without trying to look further. I started to tell her "They deleted my comments so you won't see me explaining myself.", but I sent the message too early so it read as "They deleted my comments so you won't". While she says she will redo a video, she also accuses me of accusing her of slander at the same time, despite me saying no such thing.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" continues to act like I said she slandered me and accused her of it. Then she says she took the video down. I try to explain to her that if those slandering me because of "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" had seen it (meant to say "more of them"), things would be worse for me. She then talks to me like I'm too stupid to comprehend anything she says. Example, "hold on please I don't think you understand my position".

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" then goes on to tell me about her experience with "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok". I explain to her again, since she implies she wasn't listening, that I was referring to myself and what I was born as. Then, again, I explain I wasn't accusing her of slander.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" seemed to ease up here, while somewhat blowing off what I was saying. I say somewhat because she seemed to calm down as I was explaining. So I was assuming maybe she was listening, but didn't want to address. One thing struck me as odd though. She said "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" was transphobic. That made me wonder because if they were transphobic, then why get on my case acting like I was?

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My Comments: To let "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" I was listening I tell her I try to be understanding to all and I know how it feels to be bullied. The way she speaks here, it's hard to know if she genuinely cares or if she is out for revenge.  I'd have asked, but earlier she had accused me of things and I didn't want her going into a tirade again saying I was accusing her of something.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" goes on about "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok". Then she has the nerve to tell me what to do; what to post. She tells me to make my videos regarding "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" to friends only. And that's just okay. But I explain myself earlier and got accused of all sorts of stuff. This made me wonder something. That something being, she says she is a victim of "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok", right. Then shouldn't she want as much victim stories out there as possible? Very suspicious.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" confronts me asking why @CEDAvsFan blocked her. Perhaps it's because of the hurtful video she did have up about me. At this point I began to think maybe "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" was genuine, but maybe stressed. So I talked to @CEDAvsFan and he unblocked her. But eventually he ended up reblocking her. notice how "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" kind of almost brushes me off when I mention butthurt displayed by "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok"...

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My Comments: The top part of this part of my message exchange with "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" has me very suspicious. the very way she says what she says what she does, she implies "Stay in your place or what I will do to Bowzer, will be done to you". I certainly got that vibe. She mentions a friend of "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" by the name of "billynomates.1988 of TikTok". That's the Billy she was speaking of. When she spoke of holding "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" accountable, I easily found out what she meant. I saw a video she had posted shortly after her one about "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" and how they targeted me. "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" had referred to me as "extremely neurodivergent. The way she said it implied I am very ignorant, stupid, dumb, and can't comprehend anything. The vibe I got was that of she thought that without her, I'd be worse off.

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My Comments: "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" and the way she says she hates "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" is a bit disturbing. The way he treated me and @CEDAvsFan and his friend @Amber Mera was twisted, but I do not hate him. She seems to change her tune a little bit when I link something to her to give her a heads up on something. Shortly after she said "I don't care if they defend bowser", I had decided to block her. To some that may seem like I am blocking her for petty reasons, but too much just seemed off. Plus @CEDAvsFan and @Angie had made good points as to why. The best point being she was using us (Me and @CEDAvsFan) to make what she says look more true.

Now that I've tackled the DMs, now on to tackling an issue that popped up while i was working on this blog.

Not long ago, I had an issue on Tiktok that was a bit odd. One of my videos was muted for "copyright", despite the only sound being my voice. Video with proof below. Uploaded on 3/21/2024.

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I was looking around Tiktok and came upon someone that also had a weird Tiktok issue. That person being "bournemouthmetal of TikTok". They had something removed because of an innocent emoji comment. I recorded a few seconds of me looking at their Tiktok about it. So I made one of my own and tagged them. Seemed right since I was showing their content. Before that, I never interacted with "bournemouthmetal of TikTok". Beyond them liking my video, we've had no interaction together; public and private.

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Not too long after that video, I began to get harassed on Twitter by an account I highly suspect is..."SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok". Credit to @Angie for the screenshots and archiving. I was busy paying attention to the Yankees vs Astros game on ESPN+. I didn't see the notifications. "boredatworkfem of twitter" has now been blocked. Not sure why I never got their notifications.

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My Comments: The very first tweet treats me like I buddy buddied up with "bournemouthmetal of TikTok". I've never spoken with them. But apparently a video pointing out someone that's also had odd TikTok issue is some grand conspiracy it's being treated like.

The 2nd tweet was replying to a tweet of mine about a part in a game I'm playing (Final Fantasy XI). I sense alot of anger and butthurt. They are assuming I'm friends with "bournemouthmetal of TikTok" because I point out we are both having odd TikTok issues.

The 3rd tweet is very telling. "boredatworkfem of twitter". I know they're talking about "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok". But the way they are, it' as if that IS "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok". If not then it would be someone very close to her. I have not in any way, shape, or form abuse "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok". Me blocking "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" is not abuse. But apparently it's being twisted to such and me blocking "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" first is being twisted to "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" blocking me first. The very way they claim I am friends with "bournemouthmetal of TikTok", it's as if that if it was true, it would be a great threat to them. "bournemouthmetal of TikTok" hasn't even tried to reach out to me in any form other than living my video pointing out that I'm also having odd TikTok issues. By their logic, if I make a video and tag someone, that means I'm friends with them. Flawed logic.

I was going to close this blog off with the above, but a few new things popped up. I received this DM on Tiktok.

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My Comments: I do not know the person who sent this to me. They said I could show/share it. I honored their request to cover up their name.

I had sent a few messages to people about my Tiktok issue. I decided to check my TikTok DMs to see if anyone else had responded. No one else had. But I did take a second look at 2 replies I had gotten do far. Both of which, said it was "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" and their friends mass reporting. I know here it says 2 videos and I uploaded proof of only one. I felt it unnecessary to post proof of the second one since it was the same video that got taken down again.

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My Comments: While one of the DMs was up, my big male tabby (large sized, NOT FAT) cat jumped up on my desk and began meowing at the screen. I did a video call with @CEDAvsFan to show him how cute this handsome kitty was. As I was, he took notice of one of the DMs. He then asked me when I uploaded proof of the issue to my YouTube account. I told him it was on the early AM hours of March 22, 2024. That was when he pointed something out to me. "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" didn't start in on us until MUCH LATER on March 22, 2024. While I do not like how they came at me, @CEDAvsFan, and his friend @Amber Mera... I will not blame them for something they couldn't have possibly been responsible for.

At the start of this blog, I mentioned that going to "SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok" main profile gave an error and that she changed her username. Below is just proof of my claim.

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My Comments: Since I took the first screenshot, she's followed a few people and lost one follower. I highly doubt the new username is a fake.

FINAL THOUGHTS

This blog is meant only for me to speak my peace. Nothing more. I am not encouraging or endorsing harassment of any kind on anyone. I can't help but think about the 3 known videos that "SpiritualTatas of TikTok (formerly SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok)" had up about me. 1 is for sure CONFIRMED to be deleted. That which is the first one. The other 2 are either private or for "friends only". "SpiritualTatas of TikTok (formerly SpiritualSquirrelVox of TikTok)" had claimed she was trying to help me, stand up for me, but I can't help but wonder... was she really? Considering how she made me look in each of her videos and engaged in some microaggressions herself, I do have my doubts.

This video is of me speaking up about an ordeal on TikTok today.

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This is the gist of it.

Since then a bit has happened. I am being FALSELY painted as transphobic by "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok " and "billynomates.1988 of TikTok". While neither has specifically said I am transphobic, they've both heavily implied it with their actions, the very way they twist words, and show only bits and pieces they can easily twist into looking like something else.

To add to it, this person named "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" has taken it upon themselves to harass me. Also to post Tiktoks painting themselves as some victim while painting me as some horrible anti-trans person. There's a list of TikTok's this person made about me. They attempted to make it seem as if blocking them made me anti trans. 

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I blocked "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" because of how crude they were towards me. Not all of which was visible.

There's 2 things I want to point out specifically right now.

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Essentially these folks are trying to portray me as "not a trans ally" because I blocked them. They got blocked for harassment and being a large part of why I kept receiving violent threats in private messages on TikTok.

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And there is "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" saying I am a transphobe without saying I am a transphobe. It's heavily implied with "They wernt ally's"

I've spent the last few hours blocking people that have been  harassing me in private messages on TikTok. For some reason the option to change my private messages settings aren't showing up. Last time this happened, it resolved when I updated the app and waited. FINALLY I was able to change certain settings for better protection. Only those I follow back can message me now.

I have tried to explain myself to a few of these folks. Early on I've tried explaining I never said "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" said I was transphobic. But that was met with hostility in the form of massive amounts of "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok's" followers harassing me in private messages. I've been repeatedly harassed in comments to various videos of mine.  The video above pretty much covers all I got to say.

I've tried explaining that I was referring to myself factually when I said I was a natural born woman. I've tried explaining when in close proximity of a transgender person I will say "cisgender". But not one of these people gave me a chance. Instead some of them chose to make Tiktoks attempting to make me out to be some ignorant piece of garbage as they tried to call it educating. They weren't trying to "educate" me in the least. If they were, they wouldn't have put so much effort into harassing me and having me harassed. What kind of people spend most of their day getting their social media followers to attack someone? Then playing victim and trying to convince 3 people privately that if I apologize, it will stop. Those who truly know me know that wen I am wrong, I will admit it and apologize. I will NEVER apologize just to get others to leave me alone or stop bullying me. To do so would be a great disrespect to myself. Them expecting me to apologize to get their attacks to stop is very demeaning.

If "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" and "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" were truly trying to educate me, they wouldn't have resorted having me harassed. All they proved today was how awful they are. I have nothing to apologize for. All I did was state that I was born a woman. "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" got a large number of their followers to harass me. "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" tried to get me harassed by trying to paint me as some PR person trying to help Patricia Silva and by trying to make it seem like me blocking them meant I am not a trans ally.

The last I'll say in this blog is this.

It doesn't matter what "dhbowzeryournonbinarydad of TikTok" and "billynomates.1988 of TikTok" think or say about me. I know who and what I am. I am a good person. One that will always speak in favor of trans rights. One that will always speak up for herself. One that will always speak up and have a friend's back.